Use discretion as to know and feel when it’s time to move on to this step before one of you looses interest or gets too friendly and end up in the friend zone. Remember, even on online dating sites there is competition and you don’t want to make your move too late or too early, so be vigilant to the signs.
The best way to make the move is at the end of a conversation, when one of you has to leave. Bring it in slowly, don’t rush. For instance “It was really nice talking to you. I hope you are as much fun in real life as you are online. Maybe at our next chat we can find a time to get together and share thoughts over coffee, drinks or lunch. What do you think?”. And then, you’ll know where you stand.
If the answer is “Yes, sure, I’d like that!”, good for you! You just got a date! If it’s a “We’ll see”, don’t lose it, it’s not a “No”. If it’s a “No, I’m not sure it’s a good idea.” Don’t worry, ideas change, just respond : “Ok, I’ll to my best to change your mind next time we chat.”. That’s it! Makes sense right?
Now you might see that I did not use dinner or supper in my invite. There is a reason for that. Along the years, I’ve realized that people, as well as I, tend to hesitate accepting first dates that involve a long time commitment. Why? Well let’s just say that on a first date you should always have a getaway plan if things don’t turn right. In other words, you can excuse yourself after a drink or a coffee in ten to fifteen minutes. Meanwhile, dinner is at least an hour or two commitment. This might lead to offending the other by leaving in the middle of the dinner. So make sure you commit for a short time the first time, if it goes good, you can always extend or meet again. Got it? Find the Best Dating Sites
Now that you have a date, the online part is over but the best is yet to come!
